Grab Life By the Bollocks

Over the last few years, I’ve posted user reviews to Gamefaqs (something I will no longer do because of their refusal to post my review of Tomb Raider and their allegation that it was unprofessional–which made it all the more hilarious that I’m a professional reviewer and that the review was taken on by Cubed3, a professional gaming site…) occasionally, and one day I received a message from Adam at Cubed3, and he wanted to know if I’d be interested in reviewing for them. I jumped at the opportunity, despite the warning that it wouldn’t make me any money. I didn’t care. It brought me into the gaming industry as an insider, made me part of the press, and established more credibility as a professional writer.

At the start of the year, Cubed3 began to refocus, and I’ve essentially become the writer for the Critical Hit! series where various gamer-related controversial things are discussed. In addition, I was asked a few weeks ago to become an Editor, and I agreed.

What I learned from this is simple: do what you enjoy doing, and, if you’re any good at it, you’ll become successful with enough hard work.

“How can you say that, Aria? You’re barely surviving.”

That’s true, but there are also a few things worth noting. The first is that until six months ago, everything I wrote was credited to a different person, a dude, and doesn’t really do anything to help me. The second is that, until last month, it wasn’t even possible that I could be a successful writer: I had nothing for sale (that actually generated income for me) and no mechanism by which people could pay for content. I also once ran a website that was pretty popular, averaging roughly 100 visitors per day, but I took it down. Without doubt, that would be 500 per day, or maybe higher, by now. I’ve essentially restarted my entire writing career.

Two years ago, I was contacted by Eric Bigelow and asked if I would be interested in contributing an essay to a voluntaryist compilation that he was putting together. I did so, and was honored to have been included, but, again, you won’t find Aria DiMezzo among the contributors. So it’s no surprise, really. My writing career is basically a month old at this point.

Anyway, I was contacted about V2: The Voluntary Voice because I wrote regularly in favour of Ron Paul, and against statism and interventionism, economically and internationally. I just wrote what I wanted to write, and it began going places. I’m poised now to write an Anarchy book that was being called “What Steam Greenlight Teaches Us About Anarchy,” but I ran into a few problems. There simply wasn’t enough to say. So I’ve expanded it to be “What Video Games Teach Us About Anarchy.” Things like Steam Greenlight, Twitch Plays Pokemon, and so many other examples show us precisely how anarchy can work.

I lost everything shortly after I separated with my ex-wife, thanks to a series of monumentally stupid decisions on my part. Absolutely no one is to blame there but me. I screwed up in huge ways, and I did so repeatedly, until I had nothing left but my vehicle–which I soon lost due to being unable to pay that $550/month note. Like I said–I’d made some enormously stupid decisions in the preceding months.

So I did what anyone would do in that situation. I did what anyone would do when they had no car, no job, and no place to stay.

I went to college and finished earning my degree, utilizing my grants and scholarships to pay for it. The scholarships I earned thanks to my perfect score in the science portion of the GED, thanks to my ACT scores of 32 in Writing and 28 in Science. My lowest score was math, at 21. I applied myself, and I bounced back from my dumbassery, graduating college and earning my degree with my blood.

I got a job with the nearby Radioshack, part time, and saved up enough money to open my own company. I applied for dozens of jobs and interviewed for several, but no one ever called back (except Radioshack, which was minimum wage and only 13~ hours a week). So I started my own company and returned to working with “my colleague” to a small degree, while I reached out to local businesses and used my position at Radioshack to get clients for my I.T. company–which was fine, because Radioshack didn’t do that type of repair. Then one of the places I’d interviewed at ten months previously called and offered me a position as a slot technician making $13.50/hour. I parted ways with Radioshack on good terms and took the job.

Then six months later Harrah’s announced its closure. I’d quit a stable, relatively promising job to start at Harrah’s, and this was how they repaid me? On top of that, they announced a major project at another property and forced us Harrah’s techs to go to Horseshoe. The labor was back-breaking, and totally fucked with our schedules. They wanted us there twelve hours a day, six or seven days a week, and sometimes for sixteen hours. They were obviously willing to pay overtime, but I was in my 20s and had a social life. Plus, no matter how hard we worked, they were still going to fire us all in two months, and there was nothing that we could do to change that. They wanted to work us as hard as they could and then fire us.

So I quit and refocused on my company that I’d started because no one would hire me to any notable degree.

When I couldn’t get a job, I started my own company.

When I couldn’t get my novel published, I published online myself, and turned to other avenues.

When I couldn’t do the hormones thing through the US system, I researched the thing and ordered what I needed online.

Let nothing stand in your way. That’s the key. When you have a problem, solve it or go around it. My life has been pretty much characterized by resistance. Some of it I caused by being stupid. Some of it I caused because someone misled me. Some of it was caused by others. Some of it was caused by society itself. There is, and will always be, resistance.

When possible, take control of your life. Try to arrange things so that you are who determines the outcome of things in your life. And, wherever possible, just do what you want to do and overcome or circumvent any resistance that comes up. Because if you’re trying to do something that is even slightly out of the norm, there will be resistance. Don’t let it stop you.

Because yeah. I’m an atheistic shemale lesbian born and raised in Mississippi and entrepreneur. It’s safe to say I’ve faced some challenges in my day. 🙂 So will you. Overcome them. It can be done. You can do. Take control and overcome them.

Carpe diem.

Or, for the uncultured… 😉 … Yolo.

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